Monday, September 7, 2015

Convocation Message to the Family Graduates

My Road Map…
06 September 2015 (9:30 AM, Manila Time)

Pabebe wave!

First of all, I would like to congratulate all my nephews and nieces who graduated recently.  Next week, you will turn a new leaf in your academic life.  This is going to be exciting.

Daisy requested me last weekend to prepare some sort of inspirational talk for you  particularly those who graduated and are now moving to the university, or those who are going to another level of schooling.

I got excited about it because I have been praying  to God as of late that  I would be able to touch lives. So I thought  that this may be one of the opportunities that God  has opened up. I hope that you will all be inspired by what I am going to share.

My  desire  as I organize  my thoughts is to be able to connect and communicate in a manner that you could appreciate. Frankly, I am worried about  the generational gap. I am also wandering about the impact of culture difference. But I opted to brush them aside and thought of just telling these to you so you know that I know you could get bored. Can I hear anybody say Cool? Awesome?

In my talk, I  have 3 questions that I myself answered and expounded.  If I can swing you to seriously ask yourself the same questions when you manage to have your own privacy later, half of my goal is achieved. But if you decide to adopt  the road map I used   to answer these questions,  it is  a homerun.

1.  What is  my  foundation?

Each one of us needs to understand  our own foundation.

I don’t mean a charitable  organization like Bill Gates Foundation or Mark Zuckenberg Foundation.

I don’t also mean the foundation the Wayne  uses when she puts on her make up. Or else I should be wearing a rainbow color shirt here.

I am talking about a foundation  in life. This is the core of my  being. The  ground that I chose to  stand on.  The reason for  my existence.

When I was young like you, I could not recall of any specific foundation in life that I deliberately pondered on.  I did not attend any seminars or orientations that will help me understand who I am.

One thing that I vividly recall. I personally surrendered my life to Christ and allowed Him to take  control of me  when I was a teenager like you. That changed my life. That was the turning point.  That was  when my foundation in life was laid.

I could not specifically recall who shared the Gospel to me.  But I remember praying in the room  at 2nd West Crame with my head bowed and eyes closed, saying to God, Lord I acknowledged that I am a sinner. Forgive me from all my sins. I accept you Lord Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. Take care control of my life.

I was not like a juvenile back then.  In fact, I would like to classify myself as a good boy. Religious. Ambitious.  But when I humbled myself before the Lord and say to the Lord, please take control of my life. It was liberating.

Christ  became my solid foundation.


My dear nephews and nieces, let us re-examine ourselves.  Have you  seriously thought of allowing Christ to take control of your  lives and making him to be your foundation in life? It’s a million dollar question.

Let me share 3 important points that I gained when I allowed Christ to be my  foundation.

1. Christ has built my  character .  When I was your age,  I was immersed with God’s word  when I surrendered my life to Christ.  I read it almost day and night.  I mingled with fellow Christians. I allowed God to use me in the church.   In so doing, the Spirit  led   me  to develop my character.

In my almost 20 years  in academic life,   I  would say Christ developed in me the right values such as honesty and integrity. It was tough but God always finds a way.  I remember in one of my subjects it the College of Accounting in Letran, I took the final exam without having to prepare much. It  was  so recless of me by the way. When I read the test paper, it was a biography of  a Filipino hero written in Spanish. The requirement is to translate it in English.  I think I was sweating and I could hardly  translate a sentence. But you know, I remember what my  Professor said  to the class ,  for as long as you will not cheat,  I will pass you.   So in all  humility, I just wrote in my  test paper, something like Sir I am so sorry I could not  translate it.  I was not able to prepare. I simply bared myself out and closed my letter in saying--since you said that if we will not cheat, you will pass us. I will hang on to it. Lo and in behold, my professor gave me a  C in my final grade.  Praise God! I am warning you though. Do not imitate what I did. It was an example of the Lords’ faithfulness in relation to character building. Stay honest but do not  be reckless.

Anyway, In the College of Law, I generally opted to stay in front during exams to keep me away from temptation. You may ask, Tito Danny,  are you  really immaculate in your academic life? I must confess no.  There were a few times that I cheated. But it was during these times that I was relying on my own. My back was against the wall in most of these instances. Should I endorse it? Looking back.  I say No.  I will not endorse it but I leave up it to you to decide.  It was only by God’s grace that He  allowed me to survive  my academic crisis.  

There will be a lot of temptations out there. Cheating. Peer pressure.  Sex. Drugs.   Even your own curiosity is going to be a challenge. But  if  Christ is your foundation, God will lead you  to the right values in life.  You will have the power to say no.  You will find yourself relieved having survived the  challenges of  the college life  one after the other.  You will be surprised, God will make a way for you.

Let Christ build your character. Read God’s words.  Mingle with fellow christians.

2. Christ  has given   me  the confidence.  When I decided to identify myself with Christ, I  enjoyed  confidence that I would not have  gotten if I were to rely on my own. Or if the confidence that I exuded would have emanated from my Adonis behaviour, I would have become very arrogant and egoistic.  My confidence in Christ has given me peace.   The type of confidence that Christ wants is not half hearted. What he wants is  our full trust and confidence in Him.  

In the Philippines, it  will take 4 more years of study on top of the College course before you get the law degree. I remember one time when I was about to enroll in my 4th year in San Beda.   I suffered some setbacks in my early years so that I had to take extra load.  If I would  no do it, I will have to finish law in 5 years.  I knew that it would be very difficult for me to get an overload of subjects.   For one it has not been  the school policy. Second, the  regular subjects in 4th year are tough.  The night before I enrolled, I fervently prayed  saying  Lord please touch the heart of  the Dean that he would allow me to take the  overload.  I was struggling in my prayers,  because I really want to finish law in 4 years. Until the Lord impressed upon me to give everything to Him. If  the Dean would not allow it, so be it, I said. I was prepared then  to finish law in 5 years believing that God has the best plan for me.  I said to the Lord  let your will be done. I allowed him to take full control.

The next day, I just did my part of writing the appeal letter to the Dean.  No more pressure in me any more because I had put my confidence in God.  When the Dean read my letter, he granted my request and he allowed me to get an overload. I was able to finish the  College of Law in 4 years. The rest is history.

As you walk through in life, there will be  many uncertainties.  But if Christ is  your foundation, He will give you  the confidence beyond  what your own self  can deliver.

3.  Christ  keeps me whole.

You know, I had been broken a number of times in the past.  

I failed once in Accounting. I failed twice in the College of Law. I got rejected by a girl. I lost in politics. I lost some cases. I compromised my  moral principles.  I had plenty of humbling experiences.

But thank God for his Promise that no matter how many times a righteous falls, he rises again.   

Christ always keeps me whole.   If I were to compare my life to a  ceramic, I would say that it has several  cracks.  

But one thing  I can say, it is  Christ that keeps me intact.  In  Psalms 34:18, the Psalmist said The Lord is near to the broken hearted. He saves the crushed in spirit.  In Psalms 147:3, it says He heals the brokenhearted
    and binds up their wounds.

In Japan, they have this traditional art of fixing broken ceramics with a lacquer resin made to look like solid gold. They call this “Kintsugi” .  Once the vessel is fixed properly, the ceramics will look more gorgeous, more precious, and more appealing than before it was fractured.

The same thing holds true with failures, rejection,  and  disappointments. You may be broken,  hurt, and downtrodden. But let Christ do the art of Kintsugi in you.  He  will always make you whole. Before  you know it, you are stronger, better, and wiser than before you went through with  them.

In Ephesians 2:10,  Paul says, For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.

2.  Where   is my  focus?

Now that I have imparted to you my  foundation in life, let me glide you through my focus.

Firstly, I remember that when I was your age, I desired excellence in my field of endeavor. I made this my aim.   Why did I imbibe it? I do not know.  I am still wandering why. But one thing I know, Christ is in me. 

In so doing,  I focused in my studies. There were destructions.  But by God’s grace, I was able to manage them.

Focus is important. Steffani Uy,    a recent graduate who was able to obtain the highest grade  in the University of the Philippines  since World War II obtaining a grade of 1.004 or 99.98% , said in her Facebook page something like  Focus in your studies. It is fun. You will  surely not regret it.

At this point, I would like to honor Inay and Tatay for giving me  the opportunity to finish  college without  requiring me to work at the same time.  This  practice may not be culturally attuned in Canada but I just have say it to emphasize  that I had the time to focus because they gave me the time that I needed.  Notwithstanding  our constraints then, they supported me. I remember then that  I just had  to go inside our  store.  Open the fridge and   drink 2 Yakults or so,  then  eat anything that I wanted.   Before going to sleep, I would again go  inside  the store and   grab  a  can of liquid Bear Brand Milk. Inay and Tatay  even fed me and the rest of the siblings with special food when there would be  an exam. 

I can only say that we are blessed for having parents who first dreamt for us. I heeded the challenge and our dreams all came true.

Before I leave this topic,  let me emphasize that you are going to  the university or any school for that matter, to learn. Remember that getting good grades is only a tool  in learning. Your focus should be to learn.  There is no point in getting good grades if you did not learn at all.

In the same way, honor your parents. They are dreaming for you.  Focus on your dream. Aspire excellence.



3.  When did I  fly?

I started to succeed by God’s grace when I got all the  ingredients I needed  to make it out there.  I secured my double  degree and built my reputation over the years.

The problem with this generation is that they are all in a hurry to succeed in life.  They experiment on a lot of things at the expense of their studies.  They cannot focus anymore.

We have heard  successful people  dropping  college and venturing immediately to what they love most.  People like Steve Jobs.  Mark Zuckenberg.  And a few  others.

Our difference with them  is that we are ordinary mortals. They are extremely gifted.  We are not like them. When I was in the College of Law, this is where I fully realized that men are not created equal. There are  people out there who are better than us.   I spent hours in the library to study but faltered during recitation. I  have a classmate  who only studies an hour or so and even a working student at that. But when his name was called, he had a photographic memory. He recited like he is reading the case.

Let us not compare ourselves with these kinds of people. Let us be ourselves and learn as much as we can absorb.

After all, everything has its own timing.    I began reaping   the benefit of success when I was in my  early 40s.   It was at this age when my career blossomed and this is when I started succeeding  in entreneurship. I took it one at a time. I may be a bit slow.  But the breaks did not fall into places early on. I continued my journey.

Corollary to  this, hang on to the promise.  It is the promise of God that kept me from moving on. In God’s own timing, He opened up the windows of heaven for me. Equally good to note it to isten to the advise of the elderly.  

Once ready, you can fly like an eagle.


To sum it up,  remember what I  told  you before you take the journey.

What is your foundation?
Where is your focus?
When do you want to fly?

In the movie Forrest Gump, this quote was popularized.

 Life is like a box of chocolates...you never know what you're gonna get.


When you enter the university, or when you resume classes this school year,  there may be a lot surprises and first time. Don’t be afraid. Do not be intimidated. That is life.

Remember the promise of God in Proverbs 3:5-6:

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not in your own understanding. In all  your ways, acknowledge Him and He shall make your path straight.

God bless us all.


Dan Patron 

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